( see message on "Forum" page ) There is NO CHARGE for this.
At Christmas time
Words Can Help can actually help you.
You have probably been searching the web looking for a place where you can share your feelings, and try and get support to help you overcome a loss or loneliness. I really believe that this place can help you.
You are probably now feeling the same way as I did a little over 3 years ago, lost in a world that is alien to the world that you once knew, you are now, because of your grief, a person that you do not recognise as yourself. You will read in - see my story - a lot of similarities to the way that you are feeling now. Losing someone is not easy, I know because I experienced it after forty years with my wife.
Words Can Help is a place for sharing and caring.
Words Can Help is a free to use web site, and we will not ask you for any personal information. However, you must sign up to use the message board forum where you can share your thoughts, leave a poem, or some words that have a meaning for you.
Visit the "Add a Story" page found within the members area of the site and add your personal story or Eulogy from a funeral service. If you wish, your story can be submitted annonymously, with only your username being displayed to other users. Words can help will require your e-mail address upon registration - purely to prevent bogus accounts being set up - This or any other information will not be used or sold to any other person. Read more on registering.
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There is no secret to the answer of losing someone, the problem is that the answer is the secret. And the answer is only secret, because we have never needed to ask the question up until now.
The loss of a loved one, even if you knew it was coming, causes grief and pain, and there is no answer to the feelings that you have, you must, and you will want to, live with these for a while, and the grief and feelings fade into the back of your mind.
It is at this point when the feelings that you now have are starting. Many, many little things, that without you realising, are building up within yourself.
Feelings of guilt and your probably have nothing to be guilty about. Feelings of blame, and you probably have nothing to blame yourself for, and believe me, we all have these feelings. Then there are words, words that you wish that you had said, words that you wish that you had not said, things that you wish you had and had not done. Each of these things are 'nagging' away at you. If that is how you are feeling, then Words Can Help can help you.
For those that truly believe in the after life, perhaps they get their peace of mind, I sincerely hope so.
But what about the rest of us. If you read my story you may feel as I did, family, friends and even aquaintances said "I'm here if you want to talk". I am sure that they meant what they were saying, but I could not do it, maybe they were the wrong people to talk to, maybe it has to be someone that starts off as a stranger, maybe it has to be someone that is, or has been, through the same emotions. This message board may let you start talking, that is what it is here for.
The answer is, YOU MUST SHARE WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND.
It is worth a try. Post a message.
By entering the message board on this site, you will be able to post messages and words that you wish to say. Write it down, get it off your mind, and share your problem(s) with the other users on the message board, that may have gone through the same experience as you are going through at the moment. Those users may be able to help you with the replies that they give.